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Marriages In Balochs
« on: July 24, 2006, 02:36:27 PM »
Marriages In Balochs

Come, you the red-beaked bird of the wells,
come and I will send you to the land of my beloved,
so you can bring me some news.
I'll give you a beautiful hookah,
to take with you to a house with a beautiful shutter.
Mine is a tall coquettish woman,
whose mother has adorned her hair tastefully.
Be the messenger of my letter of greeting;
the letter covering half my heart's talks, and half my
telling the story of an unlucky, irremediable woman,
whose tears are rolling down her breast,
down her knees.
Mine is a tall coquettish woman,
whose mother has adorned her hair tastefully.
Here is a woman who is cheerless and gloomy to be
away from your stature.
And is more faithful to you than ever before.
Mine is a tall coquettish woman,
whose mother has adorned her hair tastefully.

A piece from a "Zahirook", or the voice of grief.

Wives are selected from among the young girls belonging to the same caste as the mother of the boy to be married, by the boy's mother. The fathers are then informed. (In the past, girls and boys of the same clan would be engaged for each other at birth.) The father informs the family and the old respectable men of this decision, and upon approval, they go to visit the girl's family. After a few visits, the girl's father declares his consent to the boy's family or the elder man who acts as a mediator.
The girl and boy who are to be married, have no right to express their personal views, and at times they are not even told about the matter until before the wedding ceremony, their parents declare their own wishes instead. The marriage age for boys is between 15 to 18, and for girls between 12 to 15. In the ceremony arranged prior to wedding, an elder man who acts as a mediator informs the boy's father of the conditions set out by the father of the girl.
After mutual agreement, "Shirbaha" (the cash received by the bride's father on account of the money he has spent on the girl since birth), and "Mehrieh" (the cash or property due to the bride upon marriage) are handed over to the father of the girl.The engagement ceremony is gay and festive with singing and dancing. A woman from the groom's side like his sister or his eldest sister-in-law, carries a suitcase containing the groom's gifts on her head, and signs aloud some songs accompanied by the other women. The wedding may either follow immediately after the engagement, or after a few years awaiting the groom's return from his journey during which he has saved enough money to spend for the wedding ceremony which normally takes a few days (and at times it even lasts as long as fifteen days.) for the upper classes, and only a day or two for the lower castes.

The relatives take part in the ceremony by presenting what they can afford in cash or as gifts. In the past, a few days and nights were spent in dancing, singing and reciting the Baluch epic poems, and listening to the "Pahlavan's" (the poet, and the music player) poems until daybreak. After the wedding is over, the groom is taken to the bride's house in a brand new Toyota, replacing the adorned camel of the past. A new "Loog" is set up beside the house of the bride's father, all made by the groom himself. A woman carrying a "Koran", collyrium and perfumed oil welcomes the groom at his arrival.

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« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2011, 02:45:27 PM »

Marriages which generally took place after puberty were performed with ceremonies which included music, dancing and distribution of food. The girl was usually a few years junior to the boy. Marriage was arranged to a closely knit family. Expenses of food prepared on either side was borne by the bridegroom. To meet the expenses and amount of labb, bride price, relatives of the bridegroom collected bijjari, subscriptions from friends and relative. Traditionally, everyone who was asked gave according to his means. Sheeps, cows, goats or camels were also presented as bijjar. Relatives of the bride also collected bijjar called giwari on the marriage evening.
The general characteristics of a wedding included negotiations by parents and other relatives. All details were agreed upon and the wedding was formalized later on. Labb was fixed before hand. Sang or harbarsindi, betrothal, was the first step. The expenses, pardach, was incurred by the bridegroom. Pardach was paid in cash and kind before by the marriage date. It also included embroidered clothes and other essential articles for the bride.
Sang was almost as absolute as the marriage itself. After engagement, the parents of the girl were bound to give the hand of the lady to the person to whom she was betrothed. There was no backing-out from either side save in exceptional circumstances. Only in rare cases, could the man forego his fiancée, distar.
Sahbadal or system of exchange of girls between families without stipulations paid was also prevalent. Sometimes conditions were made that a daughter born of a marriage would be given to relations of bride's parents. However, if there was a marked difference in the ages or personal attractions of would-be-bride and bridegroom, it would then be compensated in money by either side. Betrothal in childhood among close relatives was also common.
The date of marriage was usually announced well in advance and all the relatives and friends were duly informed. In former times, the invitation for participation was sent to the entire clan which then selected the individuals for taking part in the ceremonies on their behalf. However, at a much latter stage, the invitations were sent to individuals and family heads. The persons sent for inviting the people, Lotuki, included singers and dancers who started singing and dancing before entering a village. The party would then be feasted by the village headman before their return.
A few days before the event, a kapar or a large wooden tent was built, a few yards from the home of the bridegroom. In coastal areas this temporary tent was called mangeer where more than on marriage ceremonies were performed. This was built for the occasion by the people under supervision of the village headman. All ceremonies including dancing and singing were performed there. This would also serve as a guest house for visitors from the nearby villages. Among peculiar customs, korag, was most prominent. The bridegroom was taken a few furlongs outside the settlement, as the word connotes, most probably to the riverside, in the evening, where arrangements were made for his bath and make-up. He would then mount no horseback or camel and was brought to diwanjah or mangeer amid much singing and dancing.
Another peculiar custom was that a week before the marriage, the girl was secluded from the rest of the family. Only the closest female relatives and friends could visit her. During this period she was also briefed regarding her duties and responsibilities after marriage
After sun-set the bridegroom profusely arrayed, accompanied by close friends and relatives moved to the bride's house where proper arrangements were made. Formal wedding was performed after the guests were feasted..
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